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I am the mother of a great boy, and no one understands why someone like him is still unmarried. I think I know what the problem is, and please tell me if I am right. But first I want to tell you about him. He learned full-time for a few years, and now he is in college, where he also continues to learn. My husband and I thought that he would be married by 23 at the latest.
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Are they being forced to shidduch date? I am dating 4 girls at once now. They are all completley [sic] different different seminaries, majors, career aspirations, etc. I confused everyone and called two of them by the wrong name! Yeah, each one ends their rant with the rallying cry IHSD. These guys all deserve a particularly vicious noogie.
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I met him on six occasions in various hotel lounges at prearranged times after an extensive research and vetting process. Riva hesitated. He was generous and smart and chilled and outgoing and funny.
I am fairly new to dating, and I’d like to ask you about some of the I have been saying all along that the “shidduch crisis” is self-made, and I I hate when shadchanim procrastinate and take their time getting back to people.
I’ve been quieter than usual lately, with finals a’coming. Finals times reminds me of one annoying incident that took place last year. Because Pesach came out so late, and finals were right after, I took a long and much-needed break from dating, for about weeks. If anyone would call me or my mother, we’d explain that I was on a break, not pursuing anyone now.
Okay, maybe we’ll research it, but no saying “yes” till after finals, when I’d have my head cleared and ready to decide on the myriads of girls lining up outside my door for the chance to spend an evening with the Angry Miserable Dater. One particular shadchan decided he would have none of that. So when he told me about the girl and I responded with the usual BS: “listen, she sounds like a great girl, but you have to understand, I’m busy studying now, and I’m getting a lot of calls, etc.
He just kept going on and on about how amazing this girl was, and how I should go out with her as soon as I started dating again. I nearly hung up on the guy, but eventually said “I’ll think about it and call you back. I said yes.
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Even though the résumé system has become the trend for redding and accepting shidduchim, most singles admit that they dislike the method.
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I received an email from someone who took me back in time five and a half years. This person quoted an article I had written after I had gotten married. She said that she, too, needed to change the way she was thinking about shidduchim. She said that after she recently made a decision about ending things with a fellow, she realized how wrong she was. She felt she was wrong in what she thought and what she did.
I thought I would expound upon why I hate dating so much. So you know what a girl has to go through every time she goes on a date The first.
I said hello to a former teacher from high school. It essentially means: Hopefully you will reach this milestone soon, too. She meant it honestly and with feeling, without a hint of a raised eyebrow — just pure earnestness in her hope for my future. The situation might even be … dire. The word shidduch is Hebrew for match — plural, shidduchim. Of late, extra money has been offered as an incentive for matches made where the woman is older than the man.
It plants the power firmly in their hands. I guess I should be thankful that the Orthodox Jewish community is aware. Because from my position, the larger sin is its lack of space for single women. The structure of synagogues and actual physical spaces lend themselves almost exclusively to families. Politics and institutions in the community are mostly run by men — businesses, schools, charitable organizations — which means that to a certain degree, not having a man to speak for you blocks you off from the community.
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The other night, I was invited to a fascinating new shidduch initiative. Everybody knows that the experiences of boys in shidduchim—in contradistinction to their female counterparts—is vastly different. More about OurPlace see below video. When he turned 20, he still went out with year-old girls. Now he is 24 and baruch Hashem just got engaged —to a year old girl. And the resumes themselves are severely limiting.
I especially hate it when on websites like frumster, the person says they. One-sided date prep. With shidduch dating, its easy to overlook this.
The Rabbinical Alliance of America — Igud HaRabbonim, with a membership of over Orthodox Rabbis — calls for greater vigilance of community members in encouraging, and refraining from discouraging, proposed shidduchim blind dates. The complex process of finding a mate, and thereby continuing the millennia-old chain of Jewish families, can be daunting. People rightly pray for help in finding a spouse, perform acts of kindness and charity in the merit of finding their match, seek advice and blessings from righteous people, and explore many possible avenues for finding the right person.
All of this is important. The Almighty expects us to look toward Heaven for help. However, at the same time as we pray and search we have to be careful to avoid hurting others carelessly. Some leading rabbis have encouraged young men to expand their sights by considering women slightly older than them, if they are not already doing so.